Counseling - Paul's reply : Dating Breakup

 
Situation - Dating breakup Needing prayers , not only for me but the woman who broke up with me. I am very hurt but she needs healing in her life more than I could offer her

My Reply : 
Break up - has different situations.
1. An emotional distress - unable to support and to love
2. A decision was made : "to be left alone".
3. Each person goes a separate way (no strings attached )
Stay grounded with God's words. Talk to someone you trusted. If needed, talk to a Christian counselor.
Usually, there are communication gaps and unmet needs prior to the "breakup".
Usually, a man wants to protect, to provide companionship of the woman he loved -- being a rescuer. The relationship is often "tug-of-war" -being close then drift apart. (I need you , then I don't need you ).
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Being a man, stay cool. Pray God will bring her back .
In the meantime, be the person for the "right" relationship. (whether with the same person or a different person ).
God is always in the "matchmaking" business. God brought EVE to Adam in the Book of Genesis.
1. It is not good for a man to be alone.
2. Eve (the woman) is Adam's helpmate, and soulmate.
God Let You Get a BROKEN HEART Because . . .
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(My breakup experience of my 1st girlfriend at age 32 -
yes...I was busy with church ministries ).
I didn't show the expectations she wanted. She blamed me.
When I asked her for another chance, she said "No". The next day, she changed her mind and wanted to get back together. I didn't want to continue a relationship who CANNOT accept who I am, my lack of focus, etc.
I knew who I am. I am not perfect. I can fail even though I was "acting" sincere and showed the best behavior on the "boyfriend" checklist. Down the road, I can be out of focus, absent-minded, do my own things, etc.
God Let You Get a BROKEN HEART Because . . .
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