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Laura Jennings replied to Elizabeth Kron Wozniak's comment: "Elizabeth Kron Wozniak I get that. Honestly, I’m in a period of my life of struggling to find friends, too. So I feel you. I’m really sorry you’re feeling so alone. I’ll be praying for you tonight. ❤️ I’m not sure if I’m qualified to give advice on this yet, because I’m honestly still in the middle of it. But here’s what I’ve done/am doing, and I’m hopeful: 1. I’ve prayed a lot. Cried a lot. Asked God “why” a lot. Have you prayed to God at all in your brokenness, been brutally honest? Psalms, with its pattern of crying out (“why have you abandoned me”), and then praise, is a beautiful pattern of prayer. If you’ve never done that before, honestly, just opening up Psalms and praying through a few has been really helpful for me, and has helped me learn to bring my whole heart and all of my doubts and anger to God. — And then, AFTER my honest outpouring, to praise God. Note that I NEVER feel like praising God in these moments of brokenness. But the praise, AFTER broken honesty, has become a really powerful practice, when I can pull myself to do it, because the praise itself REMINDS me of God’s power, love, and goodness. It’s taught me that praise is not just an outpouring of feeling love and praise for God; sometimes, the praise itself moves my heart and spirit toward love and praise for God. 2. I’m looking for a church. I moved awhile back, and the process of finding a new church is.. not fun. But I know that I want female friends about my age; I know I want a balance of supportive love and the ability to confront in love, all in line with the Bible. I think I’ve found a church now that will support that; now I need to keep going, and to do things to get involved so that I can foster some deep relationships naturally. Making friends as adults is really, really hard. It’s not like when you’re a kid and you see the same people all day, every day. With how busy our lives are, making friends.. it’s work. It takes effort. It takes time. Even just to find the space that has a good POSSIBILITY of finding people who I’ll connect with — a healthy, Holy Spirit filled church — took about a year for me. A part of that had to do with my own motivation, to get up and get out and go, especially after trying a few churches that I really didn’t like. But I’ve spent enough time alone, that I know I need it. And I’ve spent enough time on friends that aren’t centered on God, and those friendships… they just don’t have the depth or true, deep love that I know I need. So, in this time alone — and in this time of pain (because I was really, REALLY hurt by those past friendships) — I’ve learned some really important lessons: 1, I learned what I need. 2, I learned my value. I learned that, even when it feels like I am unloved by other people, I AM loved by God. In my brokenness, He has come alongside me. I still have my days of brokenness and of not feeling loved, and of feeling hurt. I think, as people in this broken world, those are easy feelings and temptations to fall into. But thoughts are not necessarily reality. Even if you don’t feel loved — YOU ARE. I pray that, in this season of being alone, you lean into God and learn about His immense love for you. And, as He heals and equips you — as you learn to value what HE thinks about you over what PEOPLE think about you — I pray that you gain the courage, knowledge, and persistence to build healthy friendships. If nothing else, know: you are not alone in being alone. I see you, and my heart breaks with you. I love you, my sister."