Signs of Spiritual Abuse - 25 signs (English / Chinese ) 精神虐待 (Spiritual Absue ) 的 25 個跡象：

 


25 Signs of Spiritual Abuse:  (read the first 5 signs + the comments)
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Chinese version - 中文版
精神虐待 (Spiritual Absue ) 的 25 個跡象：（閱讀前 5 個跡象 ) google iTool translate the word:
“spiritual” as:  精神.  Click on the sentence to view the English. 

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Signs of Spiritual Abuse
(just read the 1st 5 signs, you will get some ideas)

  1. To make themselves look better. And you end up questioning if you heard them correctly or were misinterpreting something.

  2. Demand respect instead of earning it.

  3. Betray your confidence and share your information with others.

  4. You need to give up your free time for Jesus’ sake. And shame you if you don't agree.

  5. Don't allow themselves to be held accountable or corrected. And bully anyone who disagrees.

  6. Avoid your request for conflict resolution but are quick to confront you. If you try to bring up things they are twisting, you are seen as unteachable or blame shifting.

  7. You can’t change churches or you’ll miss what God has for you.

  8. Demand their way over your free will. And scare you with threats to your reputation if you don’t comply. Or shame you by bringing up your past failures.

  9. Demand to be served instead of serve.

  10. Silence their critics by making them the bad guy.

  11. Don’t give you credit for your ideas and successes but take the credit for themselves.

  12. Bully, shame or tease you into breaking your communicated boundaries.

  13. Dismiss you when you no longer serve their needs.

  14. Accuse you of stealing their message when you grow beyond them. (if you start to know “equal or more than”  they know - the bible or church life, or discipleship ).

  15. Gaslight you into thinking you are crazy.

  16. They can’t admit fault but use the knowledge of others’ fault to cause fear and intimidation.

  17. Have their minions do their dirty work and isolate, intimidate or manipulate those who don’t comply.

  18. Surround themselves with the elite and don’t interact with the sheep.

  19. Use their charisma to create a cult-like following that would defend them when they are questioned.

  20. Create a culture of a popular inner circle. If someone raises a concern they are put out of the clique and other inner circle people are afraid to speak up.

  21. Surround themselves with only people who praise them, fear them or submit to them.

  22. Convince people they can’t understand the deep things of God and need their help.

  23. Don't help you overcome sin in your life but discard you if you make them look like a bad leader.

  24. Leaders and churches view those who bring up legitimate issues as enemies. Those who were once friends/allies swiftly become enemies once a concern is raised. Sometimes these folks are banished, told to be silent, or shamed into submission.” Mary DeMuth

  25. Lie without a conscience. They see their platform as worth protecting for the sake of the gospel.

What to do if you are under spiritual abuse




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